Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Tell Me What You Love About Being Mom to a Boy

When I found out I was pregnant, I really wanted a girl. I mean I really, really, really wanted a girl. A girl named Evangelina, or Lina for short. A girl to wear all of the beautiful baby clothes P. wore once upon a time. A girl who'd share secrets and spats with P. in equal measure, until adulthood when they would hopefully have each other as maids of honor someday.

I wanted a girl so much that when the specialist ultrasound tech at the specialist prenatal office told me early on that my fetus looked like a boy, I cried silently there on the table all by my lonesome while she pointed out the brain and the spine and the bladder.

And then I cried for about a week straight after that.

It sure didn't help that P. was burst into tears when I told her she'd be having a little brother instead of a little Lina (a name she chose herself) and then asked questions like "If the baby is a boy, can it still be my sister?" It didn't help that the vast majority of baby clothes we had were so, so girly. Our folding stroller was pink. We didn't have a boy's name picked out. (More on that later!) And both me and the mister kid of secretly equated having boys with utter and complete chaos. Things breaking. Pee on the seat. That sort of thing.

Then we had H. And he turned out pretty cool.

being mommy to a boy

Now I'm kind of liking the idea of the mixed set family dynamic. I'm looking forward to not having to deal with fights about clothes or boys. P. will boss H. and H. will bug P. It's going to be great. But as for mothering boys... that's something I know nothing about. So enlighten me.

Mamas, I really would love to know what you love about raising boys. Tell me everything I have to look forward to!

18 comments:

  1. My blogging partner has a boy, who is now a preteen, and I am here to tell you that you have a FANTASTIC road ahead of you. :) Stopping by from SITS.

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  2. I wanted a girl desparately, it just made sense to me that I would have a girl. I remember going to get the ultrasound and saying, "let's go see our girl". I was devastated that it was a boy. How was there a little penis inside me at all times, I couldn't make sense of it. But I got over it after a week. All of the things that I associated with having a girl are things I now associate with having a child: days with lots of cuddling, constant repetitions of "I love you the mostest, Mumma!", singing songs, dressing up, playing games. Now, I have no idea what I was thinking wanting a girl. We were made for each other.

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    1. The more children I meet, the more I see that some are cuddle bugs, some are whirlwinds, etc. and it doesn't have that much to do with gender (though I see some patterns). I'm sure P. will be turning him into a princess anyway as soon as he's able to fit into her dress-up stuff, ha!

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  3. I will never understand why people have such strong feelings about boys and girls being different. I constantly hear on the birth boards how people who only have girls think they are the best and those with only boys think those are the best. Everyone thinks what they have is the easiest it seems. Boys and girls are equally harder, more temperamental, messier, more difficult if you listen to these kinds of posts. Even my grandmother espoused how boys were better when she found out I'd been hoping for a girl child with my first pregnancy. "Boys are so.much.easier" she said. How would she know? She's never had a girl! I have both, they are equally cool thus far. Does the boy pee on the seat? Yes. But only when he's in a hurry. I suspect something similarly messy will happen with the girl once she's fully potty trained too when she's in a hurry. Honestly, every little awesome thing I've experienced with the boy we have or are experiencing with the girl. Same stuff. Same awesomeness. Same lousy tantrums.

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    1. Though it was something we talked about, the whole 'differences' angle wasn't the disappointing thing for me. For me, it was just about expectations and having to switch gears. I didn't just think about two girls when I was pregnant - I'd always imagined myself with two girls, a pair of sisters. Don't ask me why because I don't have an answer. So when the tech said boy, it was like this whole reality I'd dreamed up for myself went *poof*. HERE IS YOUR NEW REALITY *WHOMP* Like getting geared up for ice cream and you're so excited for it and then someone brings you a plate of cookies. Cookies don't suck, but they're not what you were expecting!

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    2. And consider yourself lucky - maybe it was just personality, but my brothers were all so disgusting about pee habits, UGH.

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    3. Oh I get the whole mourning the loss of the "idea" of the child. I mean I wanted a girl when I found out we were having Everett. I cried for 15 minutes after we left the building after that ultrasound. I'd always seen myself with a single child, a girl child. But I got over it and I loved Ev so much that I secretly wanted a boy when we were pregnant with Del. And I love her so much I secretly wanted a girl. I get how people have this idea of child they get wrapped up in, that's not bothersome at all. I just get annoyed when people are like BOYS ARE BETTER or GIRLS ARE BETTER when in my experience..they're both kind of the same. They both grab their genitals when nekkid, they both scream at the top of their lungs when angry and they both say please, thank you, I love you and cuddle us a ton.

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  4. I love my 2 boys :) I would've been just as happy with girls I think. My husband of course is rather pleased to have 2 boys because he grew up in a house with 2 sisters and his mom....We'll see how it goes!

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  5. I think the protectiveness they show towards their momma is really sweet :) My boys show love to me in entirely different ways than their sisters.

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  6. Ahem. I have 3 boys. Gabriel is 10, Henry will 9 on Thursday and Vincent is 14 months. I have one daughter, Tommie. Not once have I ever had to explain to her why hitting your siblings with a hotdog is socially unacceptable. Or that she needs to take her underwear off before getting in the shower. Or remind her to CHANGE her underwear (or socks). HOWEVER, they have a multitude of weird things in their pockets, that at least makes me smile as I do laundry. They do not subject me to Justin Bieber on Pandora. They are affectionate and loyal. They are kind and gentle to their baby brother. They mildly respect my daughter's need for privacy as she uses the bathroom. ( I have on occasion, found one son peeing into the bathtub, whilst the other was having a sit on the throne :/). Both sexes are a lot of fun and fascinating in their own weird way. Enjoy your little one's, Christa!

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  7. I wanted and had a boy and was a single parent for 10 years before I met Alpha Hubby. Alpha Son was a dream to raise and the main thing I encouraged him in was his heart. He always had a thing for underdogs and fairness. Alpha Hubby came along and trained him to be a boy-boy! And even tho he truly is a manly man now, he still has that heart for underdogs and fairness. Just raise him to have confidence, to respect women (yes, Alpha Son still opens his wife's car door), to know how to cook (boy was Alpha Son happy about that when he was on his own), and to enjoy life! I don't think you're going to have any problems at all!!

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  8. I felt the same way. I knew it was a boy before the tech told us, but I oftentimes guiltily felt that I would be more excited about the whole "becoming a parent" thing were I having a girl. I had him and realize I was an idiot. Completely and totally.

    I just love how sweet he is and how much he loves his mom! I love that he throws things, rams toy trucks into everything, and hasn't met a ball he doesn't like.

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  9. LOL, when I found out my first was going to be a boy, I thought it was a mistake - I mean, I had a DREAM and everything that he was supposed to be a girl! But now, I wouldn't have it any other way. He is the most affectionate, loving sweetheart ever. I cannot get enough of him - including how much he bounces off the walls! So much energy! They keep you young! :-)

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  10. I am one of 6 girls (no boys!) and have mostly girl cousins, so I was rooting for a girl, too - primarily just because I felt like I wouldn't know what to do with a boy. I love my little guy though and obviously wouldn't change anything now that he's here! Boys are definitely different but oh so fun and sweet in their own way. I'm ready for baseball and WWE and...whatever else boys do.

    The boy clothes really cant compete with the girl stuff, though. That is one downside! :)

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  11. My most favorite thing is when I tell my 3 yr old boy that he is my boy and he says back that I'm his girl.

    I was like you-- at the ultrasound finding out my first was a boy I was heartbroken. I wanted a girl more than anything. For baby #2, I didn't find out the gender and when she popped out a she, I was disappointed.

    Moms are crazy.

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    1. I get that! Before P. was born, I wanted a boy - and was sad she was going to be a girl! Then this time, reversed!

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