Monday, January 14, 2013

Why Putting Away the Baby Clothes Is So Sad This Go Around

This past weekend, I went to dress H. in my favorite footie jams, which are old and soft and faded. P. wore these jams when she was a little baby. They're actually a little weird. Green and yellow frogs cavort around dark blue palm trees on light blue jersey fabric. I don't even know why they were my favorite, on H. and once upon a time on P, other than that they were especially snuggly. Who can guess how many babies wore them before they came to us.

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Well, wouldn't you know, H.'s little feet were all scrunched up in the toe pockets and snapping the snaps over his comically huge BumGenius wasn't happening. I could have squeezed him into it, probably. And don't think I didn't give into more than a few moments of crying as I dove into the 0-3 mo. drawer to start manically culling everything else that didn't fit. But after a minute, I slid his arms out of my favorite footie jams and dressed him in something else I found hanging in the 'too big' section of his closet. It wasn't too big.

I was never this emotional about P. growing out of onesies and footies and then whole outfits. Heck, we recently shared our entire cache of girl gear with our neighbors down the street for their new little. But as H. outgrows his wee footies, that's it. FIN. Once the 0-3 mo. gear is out of the house, the space they leave behind won't be filled with more infant gear. H. is the last baby we'll be having. In the event more children come to us, they won't be babies when we meet them for the first time. So while it's awesome that H. is growing up, I sure do wish he'd slow it down a tick.

Has any one particular piece of baby gear ever really touched your heart? What was it?

16 comments:

  1. I have totally felt that way...and the BumGenius diapers make the process even quicker right?!?! Thanks for stopping by on my SITS Day last week! ;)

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    1. You're so right about the cloth diapers! You don't realize how skinny babies are until you take off the BumGenius :)

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  2. I just took down the crib for the third (and last) time this weekend. I was kind of surprised to find myself not crying. Getting rid of clothes is a whole other issue though! I cry every time I go through clothes.

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  3. Aside from items that were knit especially for her..no. I have zero attachment to the baby clothing..which is going to make it hard to figure out what, if anything, I save when i go through the huge piles of outgrown stuff in the coming week. Because I need to get rid of girl stuff except for things I may want to pass down to her or my SIL and I need to reorganize the boy stuff for the coming baby - who will be our last. Maybe I'll be surprised with what I'm unwilling to part with once I actually start the process.

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  4. My oldest, Sean, would have been 48 this year, but he passed away 11 months ago. My youngest, Taylor, turned 29 last Friday, and there are 5 in between. There is a tiny green sweater I knitted when I was pregnant with Sean, and all 7 of them, plus 2 grandsons, have worn it. I am very protective of it. It's in my older daughter's possession, but I check occasionally to make sure it's still okay. There was a lot of love and fear knit into that little sweater. I was barely 18, abruptly moved to Chicago(in December) w/my new husband after growing up in San Diego. All my hopes and dreams for my babies were wrapped up in that little sweater.

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    1. That's beautiful, Linda - how wonderful that all the love you knit into that sweater is still wrapping up babies!

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  5. I know EXACTLY how you feel. When I started passing on my second son's clothing I was ok for the most part, but there were a few things that I just COULDN'T part with - so I didn't. I kept this awesome little onsie (I think 3-6 mo) that says "My First Red Sox Tee". Both of my boys wore it and I just couldn't give it to anyone else. I have a small box with a few of those types of things.

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  6. We knew we had a planned only child, and because we were so graced with friends who outfitted Pea, it was almost an honor to give away the clothes. (I will probably be heartbroken over some of the once-much-loved toys.)

    That said, I've kept my (her) favorite preemie and 0-3 clothes to use for stuffed animals (it would be dolls, if my kid played with dolls). Seeing a bear in a favorite blue-and-white dress makes me smile.

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  7. I sold our crib on Craigslist after our third moved to a toddler bed. I had my friend come over because I worried I might get emotional when the dad came to pick it up. I started blubbering uncontrollably. Very messy. With hiccups. The man looked frightened and kept asking, "Are you sure you want to sell this?" I'd instructed my friend under no circumstances to let that crib back into the house. She waved him on with a "She'll be fine. Now Drive!" We laugh about it now. I can only imagine that dad's version of the story!

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  8. I LOVE YOUR BLOG TITLE. So much that I have to yell that at you.
    One of my friends has three boys, and is sure she is done having kids now. She's having a hard time giving away her baby's clothes because he is her last. If I'm lucky enough to have a second baby, I'll probably tell myself we're open to more (even if we're not), just so that I don't have to go through the sads as that baby grows out of clothes.

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  9. I was sad when I took down the crib and put in a toddler bed. Even sadder when I sold the crib since we decided on not having any more babies.

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  10. I'm in the same boat with L... I am giving away baby gear FOR GOOD. It's super weird. But it makes me feel better to give it to fam, because then I'll get to see all those cute things again? Kinda killed me to put away his white/blue searsucker pants last night though. *fave*

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  11. Perfection. After my divorce - when there was no prospect of a 3rd child, I was heartbroken to give my kids' clothes away. I held onto a few pieces that I adored and couldn't part with. Noah has now worn all of my older son's pieces and my heart practically burst each time I put one on. At 49 I am indeed officially "DONE", yet I still feel wistful as I pack away each set of outgrown clothes. Torture.....xo

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  12. I just had my first at 41, and he is a joy, and I am finding as well that putting away the too-small clothes is a little sad. He had this blue-striped onesie with a truck on it, along with a matching hat. I miss it.

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  13. Oh, yes!! My daughter's first Easter dress - I still have it even though she's nine now! My son (5) had a few too that I had a REALLY hard time getting rid of - also PJ's. It made me sad!!

    Great post today!

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